Why Giving Advice Matters in Spanish
Every language has developed its own unique ways to offer guidance, suggest courses of action, and help others make decisions. In Spanish, the art of dar consejos (giving advice) and hacer recomendaciones (making recommendations) draws on centuries of linguistic evolution. Spanish speakers use a rich set of grammatical structures — from the subjunctive mood to softening phrases — that reflect cultural norms of politeness and respect. Understanding these structures helps you communicate naturally and avoid sounding too blunt or too vague.
The expressions you will learn in this lesson are not random phrases; they evolved from Latin roots and were shaped by cultural expectations across the Spanish-speaking world. The timeline below highlights key moments in how advice-giving language developed in Spanish.
So why does this matter for you? Because asking for and giving advice is one of the most common real-world uses of a second language. Whether you are helping a friend choose a restaurant, recommending a movie, or asking someone what you should study, these expressions are the foundation of interpersonal communication in Spanish.
Core Expressions & Principles
Before diving into specific phrases, it helps to understand the foundational principles behind advice language in Spanish. These principles determine which verb forms you use, how direct your suggestion sounds, and how polite or casual your tone comes across. The four key ideas below serve as your guide to choosing the right expression for any situation.
Asking for Advice
Giving Direct Advice
Giving Soft Recommendations
Matching Formality to Context
Visual Map of Advice Expressions
The diagram below organizes the most common advice and recommendation expressions on a spectrum from strongest (most direct) to softest (most polite). Understanding where each phrase falls on this spectrum helps you choose the right one for any situation.
Notice how the diagram distinguishes between expressions that take an infinitive (like Deberías estudiar) and those that require the present subjunctive (like Te recomiendo que estudies). This grammatical distinction is essential: whenever you see que after an advice expression, the next verb almost always needs to be in the subjunctive form. We will explore this more in Section 4.
How the Grammar Works
There are two main grammatical patterns for giving advice in Spanish. The first uses a conjugated verb followed directly by an infinitive. The second uses a trigger expression followed by que plus a verb in the present subjunctive. Understanding which pattern to use with each expression is the key to forming natural-sounding advice.
Pattern 1: Verb + Infinitive
Pattern 2: Trigger Expression + que + Subjunctive
Quick Subjunctive Refresher
For regular verbs, forming the present subjunctive is straightforward. Start with the yo form of the present indicative, drop the -o ending, and add the "opposite" vowel endings. For -ar verbs, use -e, -es, -e, -emos, -éis, -en. For -er / -ir verbs, use -a, -as, -a, -amos, -áis, -an. For example, hablar → hablo → habl- → hables (tú form).
| Expression | Pattern | Example | Translation |
|---|---|---|---|
| Debes | Verb + infinitive | Debes comer bien. | You must eat well. |
| Deberías | Verb + infinitive | Deberías dormir más. | You should sleep more. |
| Tienes que | Verb + infinitive | Tienes que practicar. | You have to practice. |
| Te recomiendo que | Trigger + que + subjunctive | Te recomiendo que leas este libro. | I recommend that you read this book. |
| Te sugiero que | Trigger + que + subjunctive | Te sugiero que estudies más. | I suggest that you study more. |
| Es mejor que | Trigger + que + subjunctive | Es mejor que vayas al médico. | It's better that you go to the doctor. |
| ¿Por qué no...? | Question + present indicative | ¿Por qué no hablas con ella? | Why don't you talk to her? |
Formal vs. Informal Register
One of the most important skills in Spanish communication is knowing when to use informal (tú) versus formal (usted) language. This distinction affects verb conjugation, pronoun choice, and even which expressions feel appropriate. The diagram below illustrates how the same advice changes depending on the relationship between speakers.
As the diagram shows, the structure of each advice expression stays consistent between formal and informal registers. The main changes are the verb conjugation (second person tú versus third person usted) and the indirect object pronoun (te becomes le). If you can master the informal versions first, switching to formal is mostly a matter of adjusting those two elements.
Worked Example: A Conversation at School
Let's walk through a realistic scenario where two friends, Marta and Diego, have a conversation. Diego is stressed about an upcoming exam, and Marta gives him advice. We will break down each line to see how the expressions work in context.
Strengths & Pitfalls of Each Expression
Not every advice expression is interchangeable. Each one carries a different tone and level of directness. Using the wrong one can make you sound bossy, too tentative, or awkward. The table below compares the main expressions by their strengths, limitations, and best contexts.
| Expression | Strength | Pitfall | Best Context |
|---|---|---|---|
| Tienes que + inf. | Very clear; leaves no doubt about urgency | Can sound pushy or commanding with acquaintances | Close friends, urgent situations, parents to children |
| Debes + inf. | Direct and authoritative; conveys obligation | May feel moralistic or preachy | When something is genuinely important (health, safety) |
| Deberías + inf. | Polite yet firm; the conditional softens the tone | Slightly less urgent; may not be taken seriously enough | General advice between peers or from advisor to advisee |
| Te recomiendo que + subj. | Respectful and warm; implies personal experience | Requires subjunctive — more complex grammar | Restaurants, travel tips, class choices, any recommendation |
| Te sugiero que + subj. | Very polite; gives the listener freedom to decline | Can sound too tentative when strong advice is needed | Professional settings, writing, formal conversations |
| ¿Por qué no + pres.? | Friendly, low-pressure, conversational | May not feel serious enough for important matters | Casual suggestions between friends |
Connection to Advanced Communication
The advice expressions you have learned in this lesson are your entry point into a much larger world of Spanish communication. As you advance, you will encounter more nuanced ways to give guidance, express opinions, and persuade others. The table below shows how these foundational structures connect to topics you will study in Spanish 3 and beyond.
| What You Know Now (Spanish 2) | What's Coming Next (Spanish 3+) |
|---|---|
| Deberías + infinitive | The full conditional mood: Yo que tú, hablaría con ella (If I were you, I would talk to her) |
| Te recomiendo que + present subjunctive | Imperfect subjunctive for past advice: Te recomendé que estudiaras (I recommended that you study) |
| Simple advice in familiar contexts | Persuasive essays and debates using Es imprescindible que..., Es fundamental que... |
| Choosing between informal and formal register | Regional variations: vos forms in Argentina, vosotros in Spain, plus cultural norms for directness |
| ¿Por qué no + present indicative? | Hypothetical suggestions: ¿Y si fuéramos al cine? (What if we went to the movies?) |
The good news is that once you feel confident with the expressions in this lesson, the advanced structures are natural extensions. The present subjunctive you are practicing now is the gateway to the imperfect subjunctive, and the conditional form deberías is your first taste of the full conditional mood. Every structure you internalize now makes the next level easier.
Practice Problems
Test your understanding of advice and recommendation expressions with the five problems below. They increase in difficulty, starting with basic recall and building toward real-world application.
Lesson Summary
In this lesson, you learned how to ask for advice using expressions like ¿Qué me recomiendas?, ¿Qué me aconsejas?, and ¿Qué debo hacer?. You also mastered how to give advice ranging from strong commands (Tienes que + infinitive, Debes + infinitive) to moderate suggestions (Deberías + infinitive) to soft, polite recommendations (Te recomiendo que + subjunctive, Te sugiero que + subjunctive, ¿Por qué no + present indicative?).
The two core grammar patterns are conjugated verb + infinitive (used with deber, tener que) and trigger expression + que + present subjunctive (used with recomendar, sugerir, aconsejar, es mejor). You learned to match your formality level to the situation by choosing between tú and usted forms. These skills prepare you for more advanced communication, including the full conditional mood and the imperfect subjunctive in Spanish 3.